The Master and His slave
hello everyone!
on this site, i tend to post whatever is on my mind. i also include pics to turn Master on, geeky things that i think would amuse Master or political rants when the nonsense of dc gets a little too close to home.
with all that being said, it is important to Master and me that this site continues to be an outlet for those living a M/s lifestyle, seeking out a M/s lifestyle or just curious about the community in which W/we live. the problem is that i sometimes run out of M/s or bdsm essay topics. sometimes living as Master’s slave or puppy seems so second nature to me that i forget to reflect on what that means or how i got here.
so, dear readers, i’d like to ask that you submit any topics you’d like me to cover in-depth as essays or research. it could be about the lifestyle and community in general, requests for a “fetish focus,” the philosophies of slavehood or even questions specifically about my life serving Master as His slave, pet and husband. i want to make sure that this blog continues acting as outlet for those seeking an understanding of the lifestyle, especially since there is so little honest information out there. plus, it keeps my little puppy brain distracted in the midst of depression season.
please feel free to respond to this post or email me at pupslavekeith@theMasterandHisslave.com.
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pupslave keith
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Hi pup
I’ve got a few. Apologies if you’ve covered them before. I know you now have hundreds of posts here, and you could well have.
• In your relationship with your Master how do you balance the love, friendship, support and companionship (that could tend toward being vanilla… the part that you refer to in this post as lover/husband) with your roles as Master and pupslave? Can you be “friends” with your Master in the same way that a vanilla gay couple can also be best friends?
• This is a slightly complex question, so I’ll make it two parts for clarity (though I think they’re kind of related):
A. I suspect from your writing that you have a very busy mind (think, think, think). I feel your playful side when I read your posts, but I don’t feel your zen side. Puppies are playful (and loyal and adorable), but they’re also remarkable at being able to stay in the moment and switch off the outside world. Do you have this trait too? Is it something you’ve needed to develop?
B. As a lifestyle Dom, I’ve consciously developed a range of skills to supplement those that come naturally to me. Some of those skills are “tool” related (dexterity with ropes, accuracy with whips and floggers, knowledge of a whole range of areas such as wax, breathing, pain and pleasure points etc etc). Some of the skills are broader understandings of psychology, motivation and control. As a pupslave, I’m sure you’ve developed a range of boy/slave skills to please your Master. Have you developed pup skills too? What are these?
• I think pup-play is incredibly misunderstood, even within the BDSM community. I would love to see a post, or a series of posts, exploring the specifics of it. What does a session involve when you are in this mode? What keeps you there? What games does your Master like to play with you? Is there a training element, and what does this involve? Do you have a series of commands you respond to? Are there positions you practice and perfect in the Gorean “position training” sense (like “show”, “sit”, “stay”)? Do you have accessories you use to accompany your puppy time (hood, paws, kneepads etc)? How does your Master move you from slave mode to puppy mode and from puppy mode to slave mode? Can a session be sexual in puppy mode, or is that time reserved for non-sexual play?
• Monogamy/polygamy/BDSM families. I’d love for you to research and talk about this. There seems to be a take on this within the BDSM community that is quite different to the vanilla community. I always wonder why that is… whether BDSM lends itself perhaps to a more polygamous lifestyle or whether there is some other motivation or advantage that is not so pressing in the vanilla community.
• This one comes from boydenon, who loves reading your posts and first pointed me to your site. He’s 20yo and has just moved to Kuala Lumpur from a small town in Malaysia to start his first year at University. He’s finding that every guy he chats with (Recon) is after one night stands. He’s having a tough time with this, because he feels that for him the emotional connection is important… he wants to submit to someone he knows and respects and he is very turned on by TPE. He says “I am not really turned on by erotic play just for the sake of play, but I’m super turned on by the power of skilled Doms”. He wants to know if you have any advice for him on what to do next? Is it all about the play, or is there more? Should he wait for the right one, or play the field? How did you meet your Master? Did it start as a playdate and develop into something more? How did you know he was the one?
• This one comes from pupboy_ric, one of my pups in Singapore. he would like to see you explore the topic of chastity and wonders whether you have any personal experience with it.
Hi, I love your blog. You’ve both been an inspiration for me to try out some things with my partner that I’ve only ever dreamt of. I’ve wanted to be a slave and to be dominated for so long but it’s really not his thing. We’ve tried before but he’s pretty clueless. Now we’re giving it another go and he’s getting much better, but 20+ years of normality are hard to put aside.
I wondered if either of you had any tips for helping him in the right direction? I’m struggling to get him to see that it’s more than him simply being rough with me once in a while, grabbing me by the hair and ordering me to suck his cock etc. If I resist he often takes it as me wanting to get back to normal relations whereas I really need him to assert himself. We are getting much better but any thoughts from such experienced ones as your good selves would be helpful. Oh, I’ve started to write out some slave rules along with things that his Master might do to keep a good, compliant slave, so hopefully that’ll help a little.
Keep up the good work and thanks again for the wonderful blog.
Good morning pup. Like Marc above me here, my apologies if you have covered this before. But, I would love to hear more about how your relationship with your Master first transitioned from a vanilla relationship to the M/s dynamic you have now. Specifically, I’d love to hear your feelings about it when it happened. How was it the first time you called him Master, wore his collar, or got on your knees in front of him?
Thank for this wonderful blog.
-Sebastian