The Master and His slave
question:
My girlfriend has been in a M/s relationship for a while now. I kind of knew but perhaps did not quite understand it. Now they are getting married in July and I am honoured to be asked to be the maid of honour…i just dont know what to expect etc
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I wouldn’t worry too much. While anything is possible, I’d be willing to bet their wedding is a little toned down if for no other reason friends and family who are not in the M/s lifestyle will be attending. And if it isn’t, then you’ll still be fine because the day is all about the couple getting married and what they want – and you sound like a good friend willing to take it all in stride! Our wedding was VERY vanilla…our wedding night, not so much. But our wedding was more an outward expression of our love and commitment to each other – not necessarily about our bond as Master and slave. Another ceremony marked a special occasion for that – keith’s collaring ceremony. So I say just relax and enjoy yourself…and you might want to do some research before throwing her bachelorette party. HA!
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Hi Sexy Master Chris, I’m a big fan of your site. I enjoy your profound and healthy relationship a lot.
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Thank you very much for the comment! I’m glad you enjoy the blog, and I’m proud of my slave for keeping it up as he does.
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Hello Sir! Soon to sign a contract with My Master . We have met online and this slave trusts him, but have given Him all personal info, but do not have Madter ‘s real last name yet. Will receive that when we meet. Is this ok? slave chris
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slave chris – it is not my place to tell you what is right or wrong. But I have no problem giving you my advice, so take it with a HUGE grain of salt. In my opinion I would never suggest a Master OR a slave to enter into a binding contract without having a certain amount of transparency with the other person. And at a minimum I think first and last names are just a given. I would never ask a slave to sign a contract with me without them knowing who I am, what I do, and how my household operates. But I’m not every Master out there, and if you feel comfortable and confident then more power to you. Just also make sure your contract leaves you some wiggle room if you need it – every slave needs an “out” option, especially when entering into a contract with a Master they don’t know all that well yet. And by the same token, every Master needs an “out” option in the contract as well. You don’t truly get to know someone until you’ve actually begun interacting and learning about each other. I certainly hope things work out.
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In a TPE relationship, is there such a thing as financial domination? What about if one person is a slave? Does he/she have a right to manage their own finances?
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I think it’s interesting when someone asks me about a very specific type of control or dominance within the Master/slave world. Here’s a really broad answer – anything that the consenting adults within the relationship want to do is okay.
Now to answer you more specifically, there are definitely aspects of financial domination out there, but that doesn’t mean it occurs in every single TPE or M/s relationship. Just like there is often bondage in these relationships – that doesn’t mean everyone does it. That would be like asking if the straight married couple around the corner plays board games, since they’re married. Do you get where I’m going with this?
Everyone determines their own relationship boundaries together. It’s just like in any other relationship. For my household, there is financial dominance. All of the finances are under my control – this is not only because I enjoy controlling the finances, it’s also because my slave is horrible at managing money! HOWEVER if my slave were an accountant with excellent financial skills, I would gladly make him handle it all. It really depends on the people within the relationship to determine the avenues of dominance and submission they choose to follow. And as to your question about whether or not a submissive has the right to manage their finances – well I can’t answer for every Master out there, but my short answer is…no, of course not. 
question:
Hello Sir, i recently decided to seek out a Master because i feel that I may be a slave. Unfortunately, while in the company of my Master i am not able to maintain these feelings and feel that i should be able to. Any advice?
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I think it sounds like you should have this discussion with someone you are considering as a Master. Let them know you have trouble maintaining your feelings and see if, perhaps, you can resolve that together. For instance there are times when my slave isn’t feeling very submissive – that simply means I need to step up and force it (whether that means punishment like flogging, or simply playing with his nipples until he’s in slave-space in his head).
You also might want to seek out other submissives and discuss this with them. i’m sure it’s not uncommon at all! Best of luck.
question:
Will you use me as your CBT slave Sir?
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Probably not, but I appreciate you asking.
question:
Hi I’m in love with a pup and I’m very submissive and never been into leather and im very wimppy at top man WHERE CAN I GO TO BECOME MORE DOMINATE AND IS THIS COMBO RELATIONSHIP GOING TO WORK OR EVEN POSSIBLE
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First off – everything is possible. I’ve seen the smallest and most unassuming people take control of some of the biggest and most intimidating people. We are who we are – so be a wimpy top man with a pup!! I love it – embrace who you are, how you are, and what you want. And fucking enjoy every minute of it!!! If you don’t like leather, don’t wear it! If you’re wimpy, don’t pretend to be strong. If your pup loves you and you love your pup, FUCK every person who says your not dominate enough. Look them in the eye, grab your pup’s collar and walk away from them – you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone, so don’t worry so much about fitting a label of “dominate” that doesn’t fit you. And if you’re ever in Portland, Oregon I would love to meet you – i’ll take the wimpy dominate and his pup out for drinks with my pup. They can share a bowl.
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Is it good for a Sir to pick at every little thing that a boy hates until they feel defeated?
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Well that’s certainly not my style as a Master, but that’s not to say it doesn’t work for others. Some Masters prefer to ‘break’ their slaves – diminishing them to a very raw and exposed state before building them back up again in the way they want. Perhaps you should have this conversation with your Sir.
My quick side note – I’m surprised at how many emails I get from submissives/slaves asking me if it’s okay for the Master/Sir to do this or that. You’re in a relationship – have you discussed it amongst yourselves yet?? That should always be the first step.
That is all.
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Fellow master, I come to you seeking advice. I am a female master to a male slave. I am having trouble getting back into my master ways. I believe the stress of college and work may be to blame. Any tips?
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Hello Master, I’m sorry for the late reply. I feel you, I really do!! As much as slaves need to re-focus and often work at their submission, the same applies to Masters. Being responsible and in control can be exhausting! I’ve been through this with my slave many times. And after discussing it with him, I’ve often found the best way to regain a sense of Master-hood, is to start small. Instead of trying to force things at a heightened level, I’ll instead focus on something that is immediately important to me. For instance when I’m working long hours I might make it absolute law that a dirty dish never be in my site upon returning from work. And I embrace this one, small focus of control – including the discipline. And once I feel that that is working, I’ll add another aspect. OR on a completely different path, sometimes it’s good to just be dominate in ways your slave isn’t suspecting. Do something off the wall, even if it’s just for your own hilarity. For instance there have been times when I just told my slave to dance – nothing sexy, just quirky, silly dancing like he does in the club. It amuses me and gives me an immediate sense of control.
I seem to be rambling, but I hope that’s helped. Feel free to email me as well, i’d love to hear from you: masterchristopher@themasterandhisslave.com
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Christopher, my name is Rubis(at least my fursona name) I am a female master to my dalmatian pup Rocky. I need some advice however. You see, I really want to be a good master to my pup sexually, but I am having trouble getting a groove, being half dragon
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Rubis, I think you just became one of my favorite new people. Half dragon? Fursona? Awesome – I don’t know anyone (or anyone that has opened up to me yet) that is part of the Furry community. I honestly can’t say how a half dragon finds her groove, but I bet it’s similar to a Master finding his groove with a slave. Start small – embrace small aspects of ownership with your pup. Maybe make your pup do things that might be beyond his natural pup state, but that appeal to your half dragon state. Am I making sense…I just can’t tell. Baby dragon steps, methinks, will lead you towards pup domination, Rubis. All the best.
question:
i want to be your slave
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Get in line.
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SIR so very plsd to see you have a new pup. It was very distressing when you lost your long term friend, as this boy had done with his own dog. Considered sending condolences but didn’t want to end up just stirring the pain.
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Thank you so much. The loss of my best buddy Max was very difficult. And I was in no way planning on filling the emptiness in the house with a new dog for quite some time. But sometimes the universe gives us what we need. We met Brophy, and while we’ve had some trying times with him, he’s turning into a wonderful pet and exactly what we needed to help us heal after our loss. He’s a beautiful boy, and he makes both his Master and his puppy daddy happy.
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Have you ever thought about making xtube vids?
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I have.
question:
Whats the best way to spank a sub
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That depends. I have a punishment paddle, and it’s good for doling out painful reminders. I have a playful paddle as well, and it has its uses too. But sometimes there’s nothing better then using an open palm – my hand gets just as red as his ass, and there’s something quite sexy about that.
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